TJ without a slap has no soul……
About
Based in: USA, Oakland. If meeting is like first seeing, Not failing you coming, not failing my beloved. Height 180cm Weight 70kg Pisces
InterestsLight, Moderate, Heavy / Experienced / 4–6 yrs
Looking forChat, In real life, Marriage
Dynamics
This year is the hardest year returning to Oakland, never has 1000 kilometers taken two days and one night, all guided onto country side roads……
I'm smoking on the balcony, I smoke half, the wind smokes half, I didn't go argue with the wind, Maybe the wind also has troubles.
I am a post-80s divorced single uncle S, a Si-Mu amateur enthusiast, contrast type, intending to seek an extreme contrast lady. In the circle for many years, after these years of summarizing, I think for Si-Mu first lies in mutual recognition, through the process of knowing and understanding each other, to discover the other party's advantages and fit. My ideal Si-Mu is built on a certain emotional foundation, both can put the other in their hearts, rather than just playing for the sake of playing. Venting with feelings and love is forever more fascinating than a fleeting encounter; that atmosphere permeated with love is even more enchanting. Being together can understand each other, tolerate each other, be honest, communicate effectively, jointly explore learning and progress, rather than being lower-body creatures.
Normal love can no longer satisfy you, Do you crave falling into deeper domination……
No matter what job you do, No matter what superior conditions you have, From the moment you go from online to offline, You can understand the true meaning of TJ, It's absolutely not satisfied by a few words of language online, Of course, it won't stop continuing because you are already satisfied, No matter how you twist, In this process you are only, and only, a toy in S's eyes, a tool, a little 🐶, Waiting to be dominated; in this process you will lose yourself, And again and again be explored for new limits, The feeling of your whole body being aroused/moved, Makes you long for it, yet feel sad, even painful, You experience everything with excitement and fear, As if waking from a dream, yet as if falling into an abyss, Like a bit of candlelight in the darkness, Taking you into even darker depths, Thinking it's already the end, Who knew this is only the beginning of a rebirth. Have you thought it through clearly, Once you step in, You will not be in control of yourself, Once that moment starts, you will no longer belong to you, You will lose freedom and thought……
Calm your heart, temporarily throw away the desires entangling your body, open your heart, talk about your heart, talk about life, talk about emotions, talk about unknown thoughts deep in your heart. With a pure heart tell each other your sorrows, to discover the other person's kindness and beauty from deep in the soul.
If the heart has somewhere to yearn for, why fear the road is obstructed and long.
Don't lose a person who is good to you; in a lifetime it's not easy to meet such a person. Miss a car, you can wait; miss a person, perhaps it's a lifetime. There is a thing that cannot be used — that's kindness. There is a thing that cannot be played with — that's trust. There is a thing that cannot be deceived — that's feelings. There is a thing that cannot be fooled — that's sincerity; otherwise, you will lose the person truly good to you, and after losing, will not come back.
Deep affection not shown, lovesickness into the bones; no matter where I am, I cannot let go of my longing for you. I can feel you gradually moving away, and when this day arrives, I can only bitterly, pretending to be free and easy, say ' Okay.' A thousand words are all in this one character.
About 'sincerity,' let me also say a few shallow views: 'Sincerity' is the best beginning; the relationship I look forward to should still be 'sincerity.' In today's materialistic society, most people pursue material enjoyment, so most people, when choosing a spouse or seeking a master, primarily look toward material things — and this has created S's showing off in all kinds of ways: showing cars, showing watches, showing income, showing education, showing elegance, showing literary talent, etc. Of course in the circle there are also master-Mu relationships people envy, but I can say which of those master-Mu are not true in nature? But this is after all only a rare few. And most men and women in the circle have lost their truest selves. Originally coming here was hoping to completely put down the usual disguise, fully expose the unknown other side of themselves — whether sinking or obtaining a rebirth through another path, only to find the truest self in this prosperous mortal world. Whatever origin, whatever desire, let us throw away all the troubles and hypocrisy under the mask and be the truest selves once. For the Si-Mu circle, people seeking masters and seeking Mu are countless every day. For S/M relationships, for master and Mu relationships, I think first need to establish the most basic recognition, such as whether preferences are the same — no need for a harsh 100% fit, but at least need seventy or eighty percent fit. Then whether both sides can establish a sense of trust; this is a necessary prerequisite for a Mu to have a sense of security toward a master, because of recognition, because of having security, then love arises in the heart. I very much agree with a sentence 'a master's rights come from a Mu's bestowal' — only when a person as a Mu willingly gives, even rejoices in what the master rejoices and takes pleasure in the master's pleasure, can a master truly be called a master. And all this is not only a test for a Mu, how is it not also a test for a master? If either master or Mu has impure thoughts, not treating each other with true feelings, there will surely be a time of exposure; false feelings ultimately cannot withstand the test of time.
In 2024, continue seeking a long-term heart Mu or wife Mu. I need a stable master-Mu relationship, hoping for mutual trust, mutual understanding and tolerance. For me, a master-Mu relationship is even more a peculiar sublimation of a couple's relationship — loving each other, with the most sincere heart blending each other's emotions together. I can give stable emotions, hoping for mutual loyalty, gentle and patient daily interaction, stable emotions, strong sense of responsibility, accountable, a very good companion to get along with. Welcome ladies with common emotional values to harass me; online-only players, all-talk people, please do not disturb.
A person cannot become excellent all at once, cannot lose fat all at once, and cannot cultivate a good habit all at once. Everything needs a process, and this process is also part of growth and progress, so don't rush to expect that result; as long as you treat this process seriously, the expected result will surely not be bad.
What is love? It's two people ugly like 🐷, Still worried the other will be snatched by someone else, Hugging tightly!
Not spending money to have a relationship with a woman is a one-night stand; Spending five hundred to have a relationship with a woman is prostitution; Spending two hundred thousand to have a relationship with a woman is keeping a lover; Using a lifetime of savings to have a relationship with a woman is wife (FQ); From this it can be seen: the more money spent, the more stable the relationship between men and women.
What is the difference between love and marriage: Today you slept with her, tomorrow you still want to sleep with her — that's love; Today you slept with her, tomorrow you still have to sleep with her — that's marriage.
Every kind of love is worth being cherished.
The most pathetic thing in today's society is: talking about money to the person who loves you, talking about feelings to the person who doesn't love you.
About 'slapping the face' The act of 'slapping the face' in reality is originally a great humiliation to a person; this is also why ordinary people become ashamed and angry after being slapped. In Si-Mu, the act of slapping is not only a humiliation and punishment for an M or Mu, but also a kind of psychological oppression on an M or Mu. This is also why many M or Mu, when repeatedly jumping back and forth, become gentle and obedient after being subjected to a sudden slap. A small personal insight from many years, not comprehensive, hope for inclusion. 😊
Whenever I see many Mu in the circle posting dynamics looking for a true-hearted master, I feel very heartbroken, my inner self is also mixed with five flavors, both sighing and melancholy. Now the circle is filled with too many so-called S and M; men use Si-Mu as a pretext but are actually animals thinking with their lower bodies; I don't know when women have draped naked money-seeking with a 'sincerity' outer coat — this is originally not blameworthy, each takes what they need, but as a result people who truly need it have instead become the people who least look like S and M. This is bad money driving out good money.
Tonight others are watching the Spring Festival Gala, playing mahjong, while I am reading……
What I love:
Although Si-Mu is a niche circle, it actually has higher requirements for how people get along. Take a female M as an example: as women are often dominated by emotions and irrationality, as an S/master, you should accept their feelings with a gentle inclusive heart, establish a harmonious communication channel, give the M/Mu emotional security and trust. An S should first create a harmonious communication atmosphere, rather than presumptuously swearing profusely. First she is your M, then you have the right to humiliate her; otherwise you should treat each other as equals and respect each other. In early communication and discussion with an M, allow the M to have different positions or viewpoints from you, avoid confrontational conflicts, and don't easily draw conclusions without understanding the other party. Reasonably, through your own understanding of Si-Mu, use a gradual method to guide the M step by step; when the M involuntarily says 'yes' to the S, it means at this time the M has, whether psychologically or emotionally, begun to accept you. At all times a female M will be close to people whose thinking, emotions and behavior are similar to their own, so as an S you cannot only know how to take, without knowing how to give. Whether in a brief game or long-term companionship, an M will in this process or time period be in a state of losing 'self,' and this is necessary. It is undeniable an M will from losing 'self' obtain unprecedented excitement, pleasure or satisfaction, otherwise she wouldn't like being made that way. But it's worth noting, as an S you are not to completely obliterate an M's 'self,' but let the M understand 'value takes cheapness as its root.' An S cannot treat an M merely as a plaything and tool; he should also invest emotional care and love for the M, teach the M while enjoying the game process, to use a positive life attitude to exclude worried psychology.
If you want to curse someone, other churches will tell you: this is not good, saying it will reduce your fortune. Taoism says: she wants to find cursing, you fulfill her, you are accumulating merit.
What is good? Answering everything — that's good!
This suffocating feeling of perverted forced love needs two lunatics to be good. One with extremely strong possessiveness, another with extreme lack of security. The side with strong possessiveness is afraid of scaring the other away and can only restrain desire; the side lacking security clearly craves the other, yet is afraid that after giving everything they've entrusted themselves to the wrong person and will eventually be abandoned, and dares not agree and take that step. This is actually a lack of trust, and trust is built on effective communication, and communication needs patience and care.
It is said sex is the sublimation of love, yet in Si-Mu, abuse is the sublimation of love; the meaning of sex in it becomes dispensable. Only when an S looks lightly upon sex can he abuse a Mu more purely.
Some people say an M is cheap, but I think this perception is wrong. I won't feel an M is cheap; on the contrary, I will be grateful to her, thank her for giving her body and soul to me, thank her for letting my inner desires be vented. And the way to thank her: outside TJ, pamper her in every way; inside TJ, humiliate and abuse her in every way.
Trampling / ravaging Generally refers to physical stepping and trampling. That is violent bullying, humiliation or mental destruction. For example: abuse
If being with someone can make your emotions stable, make you open your heart, then that person is worth loving. Two-way rushing-toward-each-other love is when you want to throw yourself in wholeheartedly for a person, the other person happens to be responding passionately to you.
Actually, true SM is enjoying the process of being trained/tuned. Through the master's guidance, driving, TJ, the Mu changes bit by bit, accepts bit by bit; through being continuously developed by the master bit by bit, slowly breaking through her own psychological defense line, bit by bit being explored for new limits, from a pure girl or cold goddess slowly evolving into a private item belonging to the master, or a cheap female animal, or a cheap plaything, or a mindless tool.
No matter what job you do, No matter what superior conditions you have, From the moment you go from online to offline, You can understand the true meaning of TJ, It's absolutely not satisfied by a few words of language online, Of course, it won't stop continuing because you are already satisfied, No matter how you twist, In this process you are only, and only, a toy in S's eyes, a tool, a little 🐶, Waiting to be dominated; in this process you will lose yourself, And again and again be explored for new limits, The feeling of your whole body being aroused/moved, Makes you long for it, yet feel sad, even painful, You experience everything with excitement and fear, As if waking from a dream, yet as if falling into an abyss, Like a bit of candlelight in the darkness, Taking you into even darker depths, Thinking it's already the end, Who knew this is only the beginning of a rebirth. Have you thought it through clearly, Once you step in, You will not be in control of yourself, Once that moment starts, you will no longer belong to you, You will lose freedom and thought……
Woman: Crying…… Mediator: Believe me, I will help you! Woman: He domestic-violenced me for over ten years, after divorce he hit me even more fiercely. Mediator: How do you want me to help you? Woman: I want to remarry……
Being a Mu, be thorough: let yourself be cheap with your whole body and heart. A Mu is not a lover, not a friend, has no blood relationship, but if you become indispensable you will be better than family, mutually dependent.
Uncle likes contrast women: a goddess in front of people, noble, cold and gorgeous, with a high education, noble birth, and engaged in high-end careers, white-rich-beautiful, etc. Behind people, there is an unknown other side: craving novelty, stimulation, distortion, humility, cheapness; craving to be coerced, dominated, controlled, played with, needed, used, and craving to be transformed into a female Mu without dignity, without personality.
My hobby is liking to develop, and develop more deeply, guiding her step by step to break through her own boundaries. What I bring is not so-called redemption, but a lifetime change. This is mutual trust and entrustment, long-lasting mutual dependence — exactly that phrase 'Among the three thousand waters of weakness, I only take one ladle to drink' — it is you and it is me.
Back garden development
Don't let down a good woman, don't waste a bad woman.
I love objectification and animalization. I don't like to call Si-Mu play, because true Si-Mu is not playing a game. Instead it is changing a person in reality — transforming rational thinking as a human into a Mu-sexual way of thinking. It is the master dominating and controlling the Mu's personal freedom and spiritual level. It is a reverse transformation of a modern woman into a feudal woman. The objectification and animalization here for me is oppression, deprivation — through oppression and deprivation, changing a Mu's modern thought and personal dignity into instilling Mu-sexual thought, to achieve the purpose of controlling and dominating the Mu.
0~9 all-round type Main 6, 3 Secondary 4, 9, toilet The above cannot cover all It's me, but not entirely me……
Hungry. You have a piece of bread, you are luckier than me. You gave me half, that's friendship. You gave it all to me, that's love. You hide the bread, then tell me you're hungry too, that's society.
Pure S, Si-Mu enthusiast, likes objectification, animalization, Mu-ification (Mu servitude), likes bondage and force, likes high-pressure sexual torment, likes abuse. My gentleness and roughness depend on whether you want to be a person or a thing and an animal. Because I suffered betrayal in marriage, I have a relatively strong possessiveness and controlling desire. As an S, I never evade my pursuit and craving for love and companionship. I think a Mu should even more receive all preferential love, because she deserves to have it. In today's era of materialistic overflow and fast-paced society, I know it's not easy to meet a sincere heart, but I always believe in love.
This is the truth of the human world
Companionship is the longest-lasting deep affection…… If 'I love you' is a lie, then when a lie is told for a lifetime, false is also true. If you cannot accompany for long, then no matter how deep the mountain vows and sea alliances, they are all false, big, and empty. People are ultimately emotional animals……
Women's virtue: Marry a chicken and follow the chicken, marry a 🐶 and follow the 🐶, marry a mountain man and walk all over the mountain.
K6: Forced, limits……
Some people who mouth about needing sincerity, but you don't even have the attitude to chat seriously. People who shout about needing sincerity with their mouths are only unilaterally making demands of S. Even if you feel you are worthy, you also need to show it to S, right? You should know that a great S who can catch your eye also picks people, okay? Choice has never been unilateral — how many people in this circle understand this point?
The weather is getting colder and colder, I don't want to get up, having a chamber pot always ready in the warm quilt is indeed quite good…… Borrowing an image for use
What is the ultimate in everyone's understanding……? The ultimate I understand is: (regarding sex) under bondage and restraint, through finger-fucking, instruments, recklessly playing with and forcing, torturing M to the edge of mental or physical collapse, appreciating M's uncontrollable moans and howls in this process, and her uncontrollable twisting and twitching body. Or like (riding) fitting a female animal with reins and stirrups, riding and sitting on the female animal's back, both feet stepping on stirrups, the master's one or two hundred jin of weight fully borne by the female animal. One hand holding the reins, one hand holding a whip, personally leading the campaign, squeezing out every bit of the female animal's physical strength; even if she collapses softly to the ground, still whipping and ordering the female animal to get up and continue crawling. Ultimate squeezing I wonder what everyone's understanding and views on the ultimate are? I wonder everyone
No matter what job you do, No matter what superior conditions you have, From the moment you go from online to offline, You can understand the true meaning of TJ, It's absolutely not satisfied by a few words of language online, Of course, it won't stop continuing because you are already satisfied, No matter how you twist, In this process you are only, and only, a toy in S's eyes, a tool, a little 🐶, Waiting to be dominated; in this process you will lose yourself, And again and again be explored for new limits, The feeling of your whole body being aroused/moved, Makes you long for it, yet feel sad, even painful, You experience everything with excitement and fear, As if waking from a dream, yet as if falling into an abyss, Like a bit of candlelight in the darkness, Taking you into even darker depths, Thinking it's already the end, Who knew this is only the beginning of a rebirth. Have you thought it through clearly, Once you step in, You will not be in control of yourself, Once that moment starts, you will no longer belong to you, You will lose freedom and thought……