Based in: Japan · Kyoto.
Ten years in the scene
I love reading, working out, cosplay, photography
Rather go without than settle — height 180cm, weight 75kg, Libra
InterestsModerate / Experienced / 7–10 yrs
Looking forChat, In real life
Dynamics
Sadomasochism is a sexual activity that links pleasure with pain — or rather, a sexual activity that obtains pleasure through pain. It must be explained that the so-called pain has two connotations: one is physical pain (such as the pain caused by whipping), and the other is mental pain (such as the painful feeling caused by humiliation in a relationship of domination and submission). If inflicting pain on another can cause one's own sexual arousal, that belongs to the category of sadistic tendencies; if accepting pain can cause one's own sexual arousal, that belongs to the category of masochistic tendencies. The most main content in a sadomasochistic relationship is the relationship of domination and submission and the acts that cause psychological and physical pain.
The focus of masochism is not on enduring torment and pain, but on the ritualized erotic form of the wish to endure torment and pain, on the pleasure of realizing repressed fantasies, and on power difference as a marker of desire. Pain itself does not lead to masochistic tendencies; only when pain has symbolic meaning does it belong to masochistic tendencies.
Probably the saddest thing in life is that you are not much different from the person you hate most
Food and sex are the great desires of human beings. Death and poverty are the great aversions of human beings. Therefore desire and aversion are the great pivot of the heart. People hide their hearts, which cannot be fathomed; beauty and ugliness are both in their hearts, not shown in their expressions.
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In a world full of hypocrisy and lies, sincerity becomes all the more precious
It's final — stop contacting each other. If we keep contacting each other, it's over; I'd have gone down myself. People fear exactly this kind of relationship — good then bad, bad then good; later they fried some beans and sent them over again (sent them over, the bowl wasn't brought back, and they argued again). Petty common folk, mediocre people, they're all like this.
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Before I knew it, I'm about to have 600 followers…
If people discard all desire, they also lose the meaning of survival
If they indulge excessively in desire, it will likewise harm themselves
So how should we grasp this measure?
Borrowing the theory of the national concept of sustainable development, it is:
As much as possible, satisfy present desires on the basis of not harming the ability to fully enjoy desires in the future
As much as possible, satisfy lower-level pleasures while not harming the satisfaction of higher-level pleasures
Self-discipline is not self-abuse, but a greater greed
The more you understand sex, the less promiscuous you are.
First, because you understand the risks of sex too well. The risks of “promiscuity” are too high — we're afraid. Second, because you understand the pleasures of sex too well. The quality of “promiscuity” is too low — we don't like it.
In Freud's view, the sexual instinct is one of the core driving forces of human behavior. Psychological problems in humans — such as anxiety, controlling urges, compulsive behavior, eating disorders, and workaholism — are essentially all closely related to sexual repression. When surging inner desire cannot find a healthy outlet, this powerful sexual energy (libido) is forced to change course, often alienating into outward aggression, or turning into a pathological control over oneself or others.
Perfect
Recording the last training session before the Spring Festival
March is over
I love the way you look crying and begging for mercy, yet I can't bear to really break you. Good girl/boy, take a deep breath, let's take it slow…
