You, full of suppression in your heart β half trapped by upbringing, half pulled by instinct β between being sensible and indulging, carefully being an incomplete version of yourself
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Height 170cm Weight 60kg Capricorn
InterestsModerate, Heavy / Experienced / 4β6 yrs
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Dynamics
True authority does not come from anger or a loud voice, but from seeing through and controlling. Submission, too, is not merely surface obedience, but recognition and respect deep in the heart. Although it feels dangerous, the self deep inside is telling itself: trust the master β and through attempt after attempt, reach one shore after another.
An m asked me: are there rules? My answer is no. I think rules are trained (TJ) into being. Rules set at the start feel like nothing; the m won't obey them either, and it makes the s look incompetent. What do you think?
Code of conduct for an M sub 1. Apart from family, the master comes first. 2. Report your schedule every day so the master knows your movements. 3. Share your daily life with the master. Don't worry about being annoying β the purpose is to let the master enter your world. 4. Morning and evening greetings are the most basic etiquette β needless to say. 5. Accept the master's preferences; for those you can't accept, learn to slowly accept them. For those you really can't accept, communicate with the master. 6. Communicate about any problem at any time; don't keep it buried in your heart β over time it will build up and create a rift between you and the master. 7. Trust your master. 8. Your psychological state needs to be known by the master. Some subtle changes, unstable emotions β you must not let your imagination run wild; chat more with the master. The master hopes you accompany him happily every day. 9. You must not make demands of the master, such as 'I hope master...' 'I want master...' 'I want to be...' As a dom, he doesn't like being arranged. As a sub, you may only request and beg the master to do something to you; at all other times you can only be at the master's disposal, reward, giving, and punishment. 10. After being taken in by the master, you must not participate in any in-circle gatherings or activities. If you want to participate, the master must be present. You cannot privately communicate or meet with other s in the circle; anyone who wants to communicate must go through the master's consent. Pin the master at the top of your chat list. 11. Think more for the master; work hard to do things for the master, not just talk about it. Everything gets a response, everything is settled. 12. Remember the master's preferences. 13. You must not lose contact or break contact. Before you get busy, tell the master what you're going to be busy with; when you're done and come back, report immediately.
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Invisible bondage suppresses and imprisons a vivid soul β dullness and numbness. Tangible commands and guidance β the indulgent freedom of liberation. In the world you love, indulge without restraint; a fiery, passionate soul dances to its heart's content. A unique flavor and charm. People who bravely enjoy themselves often have a steadfast heart. No pleasing, no catering, no compromising.
Body in heaven, gazing at hell. The gate of hell has opened; knowing full well it's a road of no return, the inner demon has already been planted β all that can be controlled is only the depth.
Saw an article online β pretty good
See through the side unknown to others, understand the desire hidden deep in the heart, and guide, lead, and slowly develop it. A surrender of power and trust; control and domination over the body and the heart. Emptying everything, being pulled, being followed. It's not about what we want, but about what the M longs for β thereby reaching the right to enjoy. It's not about how good the training (TJ) technique is, but about willing surrender and submission.
It's not that I've lost the ability to express myself, but that I've lost the desire to express. Because in this world, passersby are all busy; no one has the obligation to accompany you in your desolation. Not getting what you want is the norm of life, so don't expect unrealistic empathy. The sweet, sour, bitter, and spicy can only be crossed alone by one person...
Some people, after learning about the circle, feel especially expectant, yet also very afraid, and agonize over whether to start. Afraid of what? Expecting what? Of course it's the fear of the unknown β afraid of meeting scum, afraid of getting addicted, even more afraid of encountering danger, and so on. These problems can be big or small. Perhaps from another angle, the answer is simpler: It's just a matter of considering whom to start with.
After being in the circle for these years, I've long become accustomed to all kinds of education β each has its own merits, strengths, and ways of playing. But today what I want to say is: educating your own beloved pet is itself not wrong, by any means whatsoever. Any imprisonment, abuse, mental or verbal humiliation, even destruction and reshaping, is the basis of education. But personally, I feel that education itself is not simply destruction and confinement. Education makes it loyal and unable to leave the one above, yet does not confine its free life, aspirations, and goals β like training a falcon, letting it soar through the nine heavens yet ultimately being unable to leave and impossible to drive away. That is successful training (TJ), rather than being limited to a perverted, disgusting venting tool for one person or multiple people. Those who are capable can, through in-circle punishment and education, let both sides gain enjoyment and make the other party firm in faith, achieving in life and career, standing a head above others in the face of life's rights, yet in private still bowing their head to you, submitting in soul, worshiping, and shouting your title aloud.
The night grows thicker, the heart aches more. The endless abyss devours the only light in the heart. Endless darkness, depravity, indulgence β all just to bring a tiny bit of motivation! Sinking in hell is also a kind of redemption
Seeing, hearing, smelling, touching, pain, the unknown, anticipation, fear, shame, resistance, helplessness, carrying out, breaking through, stimulation, letting go β it is not violence, nor is it dirty; it is release.
One body, two sides; one door, two worlds. The world before the door: all kinds of relationship networks, intricate and complex, all kinds of identities β never daring to be weak. The world behind the door: away from noise and worries, a stage for the other side, waving freely; someone appreciates it, someone understands β it's also full of energy. Healthy, thriving growth cannot do without roots and water underground. Use the release in the darkness to bring motivation and courage under the sunlight. One side for society, the other side for the people who understand you!
Every thought that arises is a cause; everything you undergo now is the effect. All beings suffer in attachment. Life's difficulty lies in letting go: one thought of attachment, and all is suffering; one thought of letting go, and it is rebirth.
Bondage and being bound, expectation and trust, control and being controlled β a flowing balance and friction β exist in any intimate relationship.
The degree of an M's obedience depends on the S! A qualified S will strike straight into the deepest part of an M's heart, and make the M satisfied and submit!
I. The meaning of a human dog: the body is human, the mind is a dog β a pet valued by the master. II. The needs of a dog: 1. Psychological needs: a sense of conquest, a sense of belonging, a sense of being pampered 2. Physical needs: the dog wears a collar, a πΆ leash, and basic equipment, and completes the specific forms on the basis of the dog form; as for the forms, they are determined by the different dogs and the master's different requirements. (Respecting each other's bottom lines is most important) III. In establishing a fixed master-dog relationship, what should the master and the dog do 1. From the master's angle: as a master who trains dogs, first you must understand the meaning of a dog β I already mentioned this above. On this basis, you must understand that, as a master, you need to give your dog a very real psychological feeling of being a dog, give your dog a genuine situation, make him feel from his heart that he is a real dog β that is, in your usual interactions you must completely treat the other party as a dog. So how can this be done? Actually, it's quite simple to say. First, the master must truly pamper his own dog from the heart, treat him as his own pet rather than a tool for venting β this is the premise for establishing the relationship. In a private space, always keep the dog in all the movements and expressions of a dog. According to the different dog forms and breeds, set strict requirements and even a training (TJ) plan for the dog (the dog's body language, the specific movement requirements for eating, drinking, urinating, etc.). Of course, no matter what, the training cannot go beyond reality. In the process of dog training, besides strict training, never forget to caress at any time. A pampering word, a caressing gesture, an appreciative look β your πΆ will feel happy and joyful, and he will also work harβ
The βSMβ complex is only a βwin-winβ game, not an βexploitativeβ relationship. Everything points to one source: the pleasure where pain and love coexist
There are too many things that can't be controlled β just do your best. You only live once in a lifetime: things can be had, can be not had, can be gone to, can be stayed for, can be thrown away!
'Taming' is often labeled as oppression, as if it meant forced change and passive submission. Yet true taming should be a gentle two-way journey toward each other, using persuasion as a boat, carrying understanding and tolerance through the waves. Like the saxaul tree in the desert: people don't forcefully transplant it to a wet area, but follow its drought-resistant nature, using drip irrigation to outline a suitable boundary for its survival, achieving symbiosis through mutual adaptation.
No m ever became addicted because they were taken care of too well. What truly makes an m addicted is... that feeling of being suppressed and unable to break free
The longer you stay in this circle, the more deeply you realize that two people of the opposite sex don't have to be a Dom/sub pair, but they must be partners whose souls fit together. When two people are together, there are no lies, no worries, no deception, no scheming β say whatever you want to say, and care about each other. You message each other back and forth: when not busy, replying in seconds; when busy, replying the first moment you're done. One line from you, one line from me; everything is accounted for, everything gets a response. You understand when I stop mid-sentence, and I understand what you mean beyond your words.
Your indulgence is not because your desire itself is too strong, but because of an inner emptiness that has long gone unfilled. It is a deep emotional absence, like a house long forgotten, never visited by light, its structure long eroded by silence. You gradually got used to using external stimulation to offset those moments when no one responds, using intense sensory experiences to fight the drifting and weightlessness deep inside. In your understanding, love is no longer a stable, abundant existence, but a scarce resource, so you no longer cling to its completeness or permanence; you only long for any moment that can create an echo, to break that suffocating blankness. This is not simple depravity, but more like a strategic self-maintenance. When gentle, everyday emotions cannot touch the core, you choose to build higher psychological defenses, using more extreme, clearer sensations to resist the coldness of the outside world. So-called addiction is essentially a coping mechanism in a state of inner deprivation, a temporary foothold grasped in emotional hunger. You use intense, even painful experiences to confirm your own existence and value, to prove that you still have the possibility of being perceived and needed. This is not mere indulgence, but an inward-moving reconstruction β an attempt to rewrite an originally missing emotional structure through extreme experiences.
M's often 'fear authority, not virtue' β they enjoy that trembling, walking-on-thin-ice psychological state in front of a strong, inviolable S. In their dealings with an S, an M will instinctively submit within the framework the S has established. Conversely, if an S proactively gives up his own boundaries and frequently complies with the other party, that is equivalent to temporarily stepping out of the role and losing the root of his attractiveness. Even if this S has wealth and status, in the M's eyes he will become devoid of dignity, seen as a weakling, and ultimately reduced to an ordinary provider. An M's reason, order, and respect are all built on awe of the S. Once this logic collapses, the M's contempt for the S will spread, and the S being 'killed off' becomes only a matter of time. The strength a true S displays is an aura formed through weathering storms β it cannot be faked. It is a feeling of authority without anger, inspiring fear at a glance. A person with this kind of aura does not lack the following of M's, does not lack the accumulation of wealth, and does not lack the opportuniβ
In the darkness, yet facing the sunlight. Real life under the sunlight follows all kinds of rules and constraints, caring about too much, worrying about too much. Society is, after all, a web of relationships, intricate and complex; people's hearts are no longer what they were, and words can be fearsome. Life in the darkness is unrestrained and free; you make your own rules β a game, a dream β enjoying together the ripples of openness and the emptiness of letting go in the process of the game. Wandering between darkness and light is, instead, torment and pulling, love and hate intertwined. Desire stimulates motivation; morality constrains reality. The indulgence and abandon in the darkness are nourishment and supply for the sunlight.
The relaxation brought by a sense of security; the nourishment of the soul brought by understanding and tolerance. A strong exterior, a disguised mask. Being completely accepted. Surrender is not harm β it is emptying yourself and not thinking, being pulled and led. The healing and nourishing of the soul brings resonance and enjoyment
A healthy body, a good mindset, a broad-minded outlook, stable emotions, an attitude of seeing through everything, watching clouds roll and unwind, unperturbed by waves. Gains and losses follow the heart. Let others feel reassured and at ease, let down the guard in their hearts, so you can better approach and possess β a comfortable, unreserved way of getting along: tolerance, understanding, respect. A way for adults to relax. Children's love, hate, passion, living-and-dying drama, bitter entanglement β wronging yourself and disturbing others β is a particularly dangerous emotion that brings much harm and unnecessary trouble. Relaxation is for a better life, not to bring greater trouble and danger, or even affect your life.
A real training (TJ) session isn't that intense. At this moment, the little m's body and mind are handed over to your control. An S's sense of control doesn't need to obsess over many tricks; it lies in the oppressive authority seeping from the bones.
Your indulgence is not because your desire itself is too strong, but because of an inner emptiness that has long gone unfilled. It is a deep emotional absence, like a house long forgotten, never visited by light, its structure long eroded by silence. You gradually got used to using external stimulation to offset those moments when no one responds, using intense sensory experiences to fight the drifting and weightlessness deep inside. In your understanding, love is no longer a stable, abundant existence, but a scarce resource, so you no longer cling to its completeness or permanence; you only long for any moment that can create an echo, to break that suffocating blankness. This is not simple depravity, but more like a strategic self-maintenance. When gentle, everyday emotions cannot touch the core, you choose to build higher psychological defenses, using more extreme, clearer sensations to resist the coldness of the outside world. So-called addiction is essentially a coping mechanism in a state of inner deprivation, a temporary foothold grasped in emotional hunger. You use intense, even painful experiences to confirm your own existence and value, to prove that you still have the possibility of being perceived and needed. This is not mere indulgence, but an inward-moving reconstruction β an attempt to rewrite an originally missing emotional structure through extreme experiences.
It is a responsibility and sincerity β guiding and leading! A process of enjoyment in the heart β respect and understanding!
The trainer takes gentleness as the guide, leads by a sense of measure, restrains sharp edges while holding compassion β not a forceful domination, but through a transparent mindset, slowly settling each other's rhythm; the one who compromises takes clear-headed self-possession as the foundation, knows how to advance and retreat and is good at yielding β not a servile submission, but a fulfillment with measured choices and an unextinguished true heart. The two fit and blend together, reflecting each other between restraint and tolerance β a resonant match deep in the soul, and a profound bond that keeps decency and holds reverence.
Regardless of age or identity, what's pursued is that feeling β unrestrained, without worries, being your true self. Respect and understanding before a relationship is confirmed. Everyone has their reasons for their choices. Love on tiptoe is exhausting: it wrongs yourself and disturbs others. A relaxed, free enjoyment, getting along without pressure β that's something to be grateful for. Accept your own ordinariness, learn from others' strength. Contentment brings happiness; keep a calm heart. Outside is life, inside is relaxation.
Training is conquest, and also the search for the person who will walk alongside you β finding a harbor where your souls can rest together.
This world is very strange. In training (tj), something that seems easy β if we put our hearts into it, we are the closest; if we don't, we are the farthest apart.
The most ideal state in this circle is nothing more than this: in life, independent and self-disciplined with each other; in training, loving, tormenting, entwining and kneading each other; releasing without constantly indulging; imagining without being bound by exotic tricks; being stern and tormenting without exiling or destroying; knowing and understanding each other's hearts and growing further. A meeting can be short, but the memories must be long. I have a pot of wine, enough to comfort the dust of the road.
Rooted in nature, completed in release β unknown humiliation, holding on and breaking down are just an instant apart. Letting exquisite makeup and aloof dignity be trampled and crushed into dust like fallen flowers is probably one of the most extreme experiences...
What breaks the heart was never the long torment and helplessness, but the strictness and needs that never fulfilled the inner longing!!!!
You'd better not be curious, because Sir will strip off your clothes, see through your flesh and bones, enter your heart, and knead and torment your soul
The bond of a perfect Dom/sub relationship is not just pampering, not just sadistic play, and not just spiritual companionship and endless π. It is, in a private world, awakening the souls deep inside each other, finding your true self and falling in love with yourself, relying on and understanding each other, and growing together.
What this world lacks least is pretty girls you can see everywhere, rich people you can meet anywhere, and ambiguous affection overflowing everywhere. The only thing missing is the sense of responsibility that this circle should have β a sense of security and loyalty.
Shame is one of the most important ways people suppress sexual desire. When you break through that kind of feeling, it is often accompanied by the experience and eruption of sexual desire.
You think the sub kneels to you? In fact, the sub kneels to a master she acknowledges in her heart β a master to whom she fully submits and who fully controls her. Even more, she kneels to her own desire that has nowhere to be released, the home of her wandering soul.
As a master, I don't want a healthy romantic relationship or a dirty, crude game between the sexes. What I want is two people tearing at each other, entwined until death. I want our souls to fit together perfectly. I want us to be exactly the same β embracing each other, tearing, clinging. I want you to be mine, symbiotic and possessed. You are my most suffocating possession. We go crazy together, take risks together, seek the limits together. I'm obsessed with this crazy feeling β and with you.
Many people think the Dom/sub dynamic is just a release of lust, and that being together is only to relieve stress. But true submission and loyalty come from mutual sincerity
No m ever became addicted because they were taken care of too well. What truly makes an m addicted is... that feeling of being suppressed and unable to break free
Whether it's dominating, or being dominated while voluntarily surrendering power, both make it easier to psychologically feel a stronger connection and bond than in an equal relationship, filling in what was once missing.
An S who can truly earn lasting trust and respect always has this at his core: 'reliable, responsible, measured, able to have your back' β what you must do is protect the person who voluntarily placed power in your hands, not use that power to hurt them.
